“Lust is a tyrant which enslaves the soul through pleasure.”

-Plato

Let us not be fooled by feelings. Tempting situations can feel quite compelling, causing us to act too impulsively on opportunities before evaluating the decision wisely.

Raw lust alone rarely leads to lasting love.

Don’t Wife The Wild Ones

Or a blunter way to put it:

“Can’t make a wife out of a hoe”

-The Kid LAROI (Charlton Kenneth Jeffrey Howard)

Sounds crude, but it captures a timeless truth: Loyalty can’t grow in shallow soil.

The sirens’ call, in a way, is nature’s call, so it makes sense that something so deeply biological is so powerfully alluring. Hence it’s understandable why many chase after it, and why it can tempt us too sometimes.

“For every man there exists a bait which he cannot resist swallowing.”

-Friedrich Nietzsche

However, if you want true love, sirens must be avoided.

For example, imagine you are putting effort into building something long-term with someone, while they are busy trying to sleep with half the planet lol.

If on the other hand what you seek is not long-term with that person, then as long as everything is transparent and no harm is done, you’re the boss. My only recommendations would just be to use protection and be careful about who you choose to share yourself with.

It’s only after indulging in lust and being betrayed by it first-hand that we see what lust’s true essence often is: pleasure now, but risking consequences that can last a lifetime. With the wrong person, if we expected anything more than physical activities, then we may be disappointed and left with empty promises.

Am I really in love, or is it just lust?

How do I know if I’m falling for lust’s trap? How do I know if this is meant to be love, or just a short-term high?

Solution: Use “Post-Climax Clarity Check” to easily rule out lust, because once desire fades, it becomes clear whether you want anything beyond the physical. You may find out that your values don’t align and maybe that you don’t want that person to be your wife after all.

Final Word on Lust

Lust can enslave, but clarity sets us free.